When Friends and Family Attack Throw Those %$@#*’s Back!
We love our friends and family, but unless they have AD(H)D, there is no way in H-E-Double-Hockey-Sticks that they’ll ever have any clue of what we go through. Sometimes they think they’re helping us with their advice and tips, when they’re actually making things worse. They “attack” so we withdraw. We withdraw so they attack. They attack so we withdraw….on and on. It’s an endless cycle, and probably not the best thing for our mental health (or theirs for that matter).
I finally had to educate everyone around me to stop attacking me and giving me advice. “I HATE YOUR AWFUL ADVICE!!! YOU DON’T EVEN SPEAK MY LANGUAGE!!! WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU SAYING??? IS THAT FRENCH?!?!” For those that didn’t want to be educated, I tossed them back in the river…don’t need ’em…too small to eat. A great friend and fellow ADHD’er wrote this to me in an email, and I think it says it all. How sad for us. How can we change this?